Saturday was Chris’s birthday. A friend asked me how we celebrated it, and I told her that I was with kids in Wilmington for a soccer game and he was with other kids in Roanoke for a soccer game. (We celebrated a different day!)
I have heard that a great way to tell your kids you love them is by telling someone else (in front of the kids) how much you love them. That’s true for husbands too! Of course, maybe this letter is fulfilling the #15 on the list of ways to encourage my husband, but I not-so-secretly hope others husbands see what my king does here that makes him such a great king!
I am so thankful God brought Chris to earth! March 16th became such a special day for me – because I get to celebrate Chris! I would not be me if there were no Chris; he has helped me more than words can say.
God used Chris’s immense example of humility to give me some. He is a leader of quiet strength. I have watched him see other people (including me!) get credit for his work – and he gladly shares the joy. I have watched Chris back down from a soapbox that was rightly his. He has coated many hammers with velvet in order to aggressively love while humbly teaching truth.
I didn’t think words of affirmation would ever pierce my tough skin – until they came from someone as admirable as Chris. His words have melted me. He says nice things, but yet somehow convinces me he believes them! Most of all, he stands behind those words and shows me where they apply so repeatedly that slowly I start to believe them too. He loses himself in the uplifting of others.
Marriage can have some not-so-fun moments. Chris is fun in the middle of them! (Warning to men: some wives might not have my sense of humor; tread lightly before copying. LOL!) For example, if I were about to lose control over kids stacking dirty dishes (instead of putting them in the dishwasher) I could see Chris putting a dirty dish half-full of cereal on my purse on the counter …to make me laugh.
An outstanding example of his humor in the midst of intensity was years ago, when checking into the hospital in labor with our first baby. I was asked, “Marital status?”
“Married,” I said (in pain).
Chris looked at me in front of the nurses and the waiting room. With disdain in his voice, he said, “You’re married?!!”
He handles adversity. There is a saying he incorporated into our lives that has probably changed our family’s course: “Doesn’t matter! Doesn’t matter! Doesn’t matter!” Picture him saying it in a fast cadence – like the sound of hitting speed bumps in a trailer park at full speed. (Not…that I would know that sound…) He has used that saying to make sure we keep the main thing the main thing. When obstacles come our way, trying to stop us from keeping our eye on the prize, he will chant it, in crescendos if necessary, “doesn’t matter! DOESN’T matter! DOESN’T MATTER!” And whatever it was, it usually didn’t really matter, despite how my Chicken-Little thinking wanted to make it matter. It didn’t matter that the second story bathroom was leaking water through to the living room, right on top of the baby grand piano. In the grand scheme of things, that was NOT grand. (Pun intended.) Financial goals were met when we shut off that bathroom’s water and waited 2 years until we could afford the time and money for a plumber to fix it. I look back at those 2 years without a master bath, and realize it really DIDN’T MATTER. His living by priorities clarified what DOES matter, and he has shown me how to live that way.
Leading is a requirement of any good king. By far, that has been the most attractive trait of Chris – his leadership. It has not always been easy on a marriage (See “turning off water to master bathroom for two years example above.), because his leading sometimes meant that my following required going in a direction against my natural grain. That didn’t stop him from leading. Tough conversations happened. He led. I questioned. He still led. I don’t mean head-down, nose to the grindstone, “I don’t care what you think, you’re doing it my way!” leading; I mean, “I love you; I have prayed; I want what is best for God’s glory, for you, for me, for our kids, and that makes me lead in this direction” kind of leading. It is easier to follow a man who is following the Lord. A velvet hammer. A strong man. Thick skin. A soft heart. A man I will follow to my destiny…born on March 16th.
Chris’s morning begins by reading his Bible; his day is full of working his utmost for his Highest. I am blessed to be joined in this life with him.
Happy Birthday to my babe!
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That was beautiful Terri! What a great example and role model you two are! We are thankful for all that you guys do and stand for! Happy Birthday Chris! May this be your BEST year yet! 🍪🎉
Wow !!!Hard to top that!!!! You guys are the BEST!! Here’s to the next year of even better surprises!! Love you.
Reading Chris’s recent blog post featuring you, Terri, and now reading yours about Chris just warms my heart. You both are models of the type of marriage I pray for. It’s beautiful and inspiring and a great representation of God’s unconditional love. Happy Birthday Chris!!
Thank you Terry to listing some of Chris’ qualities. I am looking forward to the time I have a man in my life who inspires me as he has you.
I totally understand the sense of humour- you made me laugh with what he said at the hospital, thank you
That was so beautiful Terry! Happy Birthday Chris. Many Thanks to both of you, You are both such great laders and role models…
well happy birthday chris brady
and cheers to a wonderul couple that
we can look up to and follow!!
Thank you for posting all the 3:16 verses on Twitter. Our daughter happens to share a birthday with Chris and it was nice to see so many verses to teach and inspire her to grow into a godly woman. I’ve never thought of looking at verses that go with your birth date and this morning I found some amazing ones for me. I will be sharing this with my mom’s group today. Btw I’ve used several of your posts as devotionals at the group. Thanks again!
I am glad you enjoyed the twitter verses! I am a numbers geek, so numbers always stick out to me – even though Chris reminded me the original Scriptures were not numbered. But seriously, I am always amazed when I do a study how many times the numbers “3-16” provide the answer to the question. Ironically, and completely unrelated, we opened our church service on Sunday morning with Colossians 3:16 “Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.” I hadn’t even chosen that one the previous day. Happy belated birthday to your daughter! God bless, Terri
Thank you for teaching while you uplift! Happy Birthday to Chris! What a blessing his leadership has been in so many lives. We celebrate with you!
Happy Birthday Chris! I hope to someday be writing or at least feeling the same way about a special someone in the lives of my children & me. Thank you for sharing so much of your self Terri. XOXO
Wonderfully written. Happy birthday Chris.
Terry the way you talk about Chris is so amazing, and you always seem to be right in line with what I’m feeling.
I married My Knight in Shining Armor, almost 5 years ago. We got off to a bumpy start, mostly because I had no idea how to be a good wife (one willing to follow) LOL. We got involved with Team right before the launch of LIFE, and we really have made some huge changes.
I’m now married to my Best Friend, who would do anything for me and Our girls. Even get really uncomfortable, to start making a better future for us.
The Example that you and the other PC provide for us, is truly a gift. Thank You !
Happy Birthday, belatedly to Chris! and thanks for being the dynamic duo you are together! You inspire me and give me hope that if I continue to grow (and work on the whole pride thing), I will be joined by someone as special to me as you and Chris are to each other. Here’s to a year of special moments that bring more of the best for you both and your family!
You and Chris are amazing examples of how a marriage and family can and should be. Thank you for leading the charge!
Terri, that was an amazing tribute to Chris. Thanks for your leadership. Happy belated Birthday Chris.
That has to be the very best birthday card I’ve ever read!
May God continue to bless both of you and the love you so obviously share.
Beautiful! What a blessing! What great men we have in our Life business! Thank you for sharing!
Happy Birthday Chris! What a great article from wife to husband!! I love being in business with couples like you!!! God Bless!
Beautiful blog!!! Such a wonderful couple you guys are 🙂
Happy Birthday Chris… Terri you are an outstanding wife.. I look up to you, you are an inspiration of the wife i want to be and strive to be everyday. Thank you for writing these blogs.